Author: Samuelandi

There is no time i think about your journey without a drop of tears….happy tears. You are really my perfect person and you have made the last 16 years so beautiful. With you, this journey into parenthood has been an adventure that i will go on over and over again.

Happy sweer 16 to my Sammie boi.
16 years of of turning an impossibility to possibility.
16 years of facing challenges head on without failing.
16 years of setting your own standard
16 years of breaking barriers

Your growth this last year has been nothing but amazing. You have acquire so much independence and

I just love how you love,
i love how everyone you encounter love and adore you,
i love how you make things look easy,
i love how you are so routine oriented,
i love how you schedule everything,
i love how you run constantly around the hpuse without bumping into a thing…i even love dem.3 dotts on your back 🙂

I am excited for what this year brings for you. As always, we will forever attempt everything your agemates gets to do therefore, Sammie, as you said, it’s driving season for you and it is your season of first Job. I cant wait to cross things off the list together and as you always do, i cant wait for you to amaze me.

Happy sweet 16 my prince. You are always my reason

As Samuel’s mum, i am constantly afraid and worried about outsiders. These are people who i know may not appreciate the uniqueness that is Samuel. These are people that have not taken out time to really know him. These are people that have not earned my trust. It’s difficult to strike a balance between being protective and encouraging him to develop relationships in the community

I revently registered Samuel for camping and that took ALOT of encouragement from my husband; he is the one that makes my over analyzing mind make sence:). Days leading up to the first day of camp, my anxiety went on over drive. What if he gets disrespected or treated less than my members or leaders at the camp? I had many ‘what ifs’ because i am always worried about how people interract with him. What if he defends himself again another person at the camp, will he be able to articulate to the leadership what actually happened. Alot of valid and invalid thought ran through my mind.

It took Tope’s encouragement for me to let him go that morning and Samuel’s first word when he came back was “Can I go in 2023”. As a parent, I am unapologetically over protective but as a parent of Samuel, i can be can be too extra.

Is my fear valid? YES. Experience over these many years has taught me to have this fear. It has taught me to be trust less. However, i need to find a balance.

Samuel continnue to be my greatest teacher and one of my GREATER blessings.

As we prep for school, my anxiety is on overload. I have spent the last week over thinking and having restless time about course selected. Going into grade 11, Samuel had to select courses that align with his career goal and it was difficult knowing where we want to go plus the courses that align with his desire

Samuel wasnts to be a chef. I felt like computer science may be a great choice for him…well, it looks to be easy for him. I made his course choices with his career goal/desire in mind and with understanding that i don’t want him to take any unnecessary language centered course since language is our biggest challenge.

But as school is about to start, i am anxious, i am double guessing myself…should i have selected chemistry and Biology and co for him, should i have selected accounting for him, is it right to center his course around hospitality and fitness?

I don’t know if i made the right choice. My prayer is that Samuel will have an amazing year. That his future will be super bright. That my choices for him will not impact his life negatively. I also pray that my anxiety will subside and i can enjoy the second to the last high school year of the boy that has taught me more about myself than anyone else.

Congratulations Sammie boi and to all the students. Wishing you all great success.

Over the last couple of months, we have accomplished so much and in such a short time. Everytime, this child of mine continue to move his goal post and this gives me so much hope for what is yet to come. I spent the latter part of 2021 thinking about what adult service will look like for Samuel i.e. will he leave independently, in a supported living environment or a group setting. Will he be able to cater for himself, manage finances or even maintain proper hygiene. So many thoughts were going through my head as we move towards adulthood.

Do i know what Samuel’s living situation will look like in 5, 10, 20 years? Nope but i do know that he has gained so much independence within this summer break. Samuel still has to be reminded to shower but i think this is a teenager issue rather than Autism. Our accomplishment in this area is that i dont have to scrub him down everytime anymore. He routinely put his deodorant and perfume on with minimal reminder

The biggest change thou is laundry and cleaning the house. Every Saturday with no prompt, Samuel does everyone’s laundry and on Sundays, he coordinate with his brother to ensure that all clothes gets to their different destinations. I love how his autism gives him that edge at being comdortable and excelling at routines. …i personally get bored too quickly so routine is not for me…but Samuel thrives in having a routine and follows it to a T.

Samuel took on the responsibility of cleaning the main floor every 3 days and this includes the mopping of the floor. I remember him assigning taks to his brother couple of weeks ago and i was excited to see a glimpse of his leadership skill. Don’t get me wrong, all this did not come easy, it took alot of explaining, guiding and discussion. I remember when we told him about doing his laundry and i explained to him that college is around the corner and we wanted him to be prepared. He couldn’t understand why he needed to start now, he felt like it is something one does at 18. Even with the cleaning of the floor, when we told him every 3 days, we had to explain what we meant….1,2,3…and clean floors or 1,2,3 and on the 4th day clean floor. Samuel seeks clarity in his own unique way and i love it.

We have such a long way to go but we are far ahead of where we were yesterday. Next time, i should share on our discussion around dating, obtaining G1 and getting a part time job 🙂

We really are not where we use to be #gratefulheart

I love when Sam pours red hot palm oil on my plans.  Its his way of letting me know that regardless of my conservative ideas and my goals,he will always set his own standard

I think i have shared here when Samuel finished school about our gradutions age goal…it was when he turns 21.  There are many reasons behind this goal which includes the uncertainty about the courses Samuel can succesfully complete each semester and the level of the ourses.

So i met with the School teachers/resources on Wednesday to discuss options for Samuel (PTA Meeting).  The goal is to see how he is doing in his courses and identify those he may need to take over next year.  Well, it was great to not only hear from everyone about the amazing human Samuel is but they shared about his academic achievements.

Samuel is at minimum B in his courses and is on the path to geaduate in 2 years. How did this info pour hot red oil on my white dress you may ask? My education funds is aimed at Samuel graduating school in 2026/2027, i know have to go rake money somewhere because my Sammie is on the path to graduate in 2024.

This young man continue to surprise me. I really cant wait to see what the future holds. I cant wait for him to show his ability to the world and force everyone to see the wonderful ability that lay within him. I see it daily

I know it has been a long while. Taking time out to fulfil a long time goal of mine was great but it took so much time away from some of my commitments.

Now…Sensory. Being either Hyper or Hypo sensitive to noise, cold, heat, fabric…the list goes on .. is not foreign to autism. I remember for many years when Samuel would only wear a certain type of fabric or rip his clothes because of senaory issues.

One of our recent callenges is his hypo sensitivity to cold. Samuel has always been able to endure very cold temperature however it has gotten worst since the lovkdown. Samuel sleeps in very cold room…as a matter of fact, you will need a jacket to go in his room….he calls it The Artic.

The side effect of this is that even thou he probably doesn’t feel the cold like we do, his body does feel it internally. This has translated to continuous running nose….cold etc. Why do i let him sleep in the cold? Because i am not Jesus :)…i cannot watch him through the night:) I use to go to his room and turn it off and if you give it 2 minutes, you will hear movement in his room.

As we take time today, April 2nd, to discuss autism, i want you to be aware of the person that covers their ears to block out noise, the person that flaps their hands, that person that continously run their hands under water or play with sand…i want you to accept the uniqueness in all of us. When interracting with a person on the spectrum or their parent, i encorge you to show compassion in place of judgement, I encourage you to be quiet even when you are eager to speak, i encourage you to manage your expression and i hope that you will ask “Do you need help”.

I don’t see the negativity in Autism, what i see more is intollerance in some people. I hope we all educate ourself and children about autism as we move through the month of April.

It has been too long and for those that know me well, you know why. This has taken me away from here and sharing on where we are and how things are going.

Samuel has been Samuel. He is doing amazingly well at school. I got an end of term note from one of his educators on Monday and it was full of praise. Samuel has used this term to set a new standard for himself. He continues to amaze all of us.

He does his laundry with little support, he now wraps towel around himself after shower (this has been many years in the making) and most importantly, I don’t have to wipe water drips from the washroom to his bedroom anymore because he now makes effort to wipe himself down.

As we prep for the new semester, i am excited and scared. Its will be a senester full of many courses that may highlight his language challenges . But Samuel is someone that always find ways to amaze me so im excited to see what he can do.

Raising a glass to Samuel for exceeding all of our expectations and to an upcoming great year. 🎊🎊🎊🍾🥂

🎶I SEE THE EVIDENCE OF YOUR GOODNESS, ALL OVER MY LIFE🎶💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

It has really been a very long time.  I have been so preoccupied with fulfilling some of my personal goals and finally spending time with self.   But Sammy boi can only turn 15 one day in a year.   On his birthdays, i am always reminded of this beautiful journey he took me on 15 years ago….i am always grateful that he chose me…small me.  He has been an amazing blessing to myself and everyone he meets.

Ayomide (My joy has come), your name has never failed; you are the epitome of joy, laughter, your energy brings peace to everywhere you go.  I am proud of you, of your being, of your success, of that spinkle of birth marks on your back, of your smile, of your big ole feet🤣🤣…..you make me the proudest mum to ever live.   You are the human that i want to be like.  Thank you for making the journey super easy, thank youfor loving me with no reservation, thank you for that special hug a decade ago when i was in my lowest…when i was contemplating, thank yoi for being my lifeline, my beautiful anchor❤❤❤

Happy 15th birthday my baby boi, biggest papa, laughterologist.   You continue to make us super proud of who and how you are. May you ecperience unprecedented favour, growth and success this year.

So let me share one of our accomplishments this year with you. Last school year, Samuel was taking grade 9 locally developed class. Based on IEP, he was taking about grade 5 math. Samuel got like 90 something without studying or even having assignmnets. I decided to request for a move to a grade 10, no accommodation excluding EA and out of locally developed. I was scared doing this, my objective is not to stress Samuel but i’ve always known that Samuel is a math genious that is et to be discovered. Language is our mortal enemy🤣🤣🤣

Samuel is now taking his grade level math and has had the audacity to look at me sideways when i wasn’t able to help him with his homework.🤣🤣🤣 Samuel is doing well, his mid term report card came yesterday and he got 70% with the class average at 60. This is the tastemant to the person that Samuel is. You give him a challenge, and he walks through it like a pro. This is a boy that went from grade 5 math to 10, skipping 5 years of math and still manage to get 70. We are excited for this new year for you Samuel

My only begging for you this year is to stop growing in height and shoe size, my pocket cant take it anymore🤣🤣🤣

Happy birthday my first love❤❤❤

🎶I AM REMINDED OF HOW YOU NEVER LET ME DOWN🎶

I have been doing alot of reflection on our journey so far this past weekend.  One thing is for sure, I have never been left alone (even in my loneliest of time).  Even when nobody was there physically..emotionally and as I walked with Samuel into the unknown and many trial by fire or successs experiment, my Faith gave me the comfort, shoulder to cry on and held me up when I just wanted to give up.

When no human was there to check in, you continously check up. When I couldn’t see, you opened my inner eyes. When I couldn’t hear his voice, you assured me that with time…dedication..sacrifices…it will happen. When he will stay awake for days and I was clueless about what to do, you gave me the strength to still continue. When work and therapy time collided and I felt like I had to pick one over the other, you created a gap for me to walk through.

When I see him now….doing his own grocery, paying for it…asking for just the two of us to go for a walk….when he argues about every damn thing….when he calls to ask where I am….when he shows tender care towards his little sister…when he wrestles with his brother…..

I see all this as the fulfillment of my sacrifices and your strength in me. I see it as the evidence that just like yesterday was so cloudy and we walked through it successfully, so will tomorrow be successful. I see it that my fear today for the future may be valid but just like fear of yesterday, we will come out victorious.

#ThankfulMonday

#Goodness&Mercy

Yesterday, we had one of the heaviest rain I have seen in years and lucky for me😁, the boys and I found ourself in the middle of it all. I was prepared for what was about to happen….the screams, the panic, the cry, the covering of ears with so much fear, the grabbing of the wheel for me to stop…..I was scared to be honest because Samuel is stronger and bigger than me now. To say I wasn’t scared would be a lie….I was terrified.

Samuel had extreme fear of the weather, it could be the weather changing from light to dark, rain or sound of thunder….it was fearful for him. We always had to prepared for the battle when the time changes and 6pm now look like 9pm at night. It was years of battle

But yesterday, it was almost nothing. At some point he asked if a light that shined into the car was lightning but I was able to explain that it was the light from another car…..outside of that nothing else. So I asked Aaton, “Do you remember what Samuel use to do when it rains” Aaron said he didn’t remember. As we all know, Samuel has awesome memory so I asked him and he said “I didn’t like it. I use to be afraid”. So I asked how he was feeling, he said he was okay.

He was so excited about the rain. At one point when it was so heavy, the car was practically shaking, he brought his phone out to record and was disappointed when the rain slowed down.

When I see these moments…the glimpse into where we were years ago….3 years ago….even last year….I become grateful for God’s faithfulness…..for the strength in me….for his drive to overcome any obstacles in his way…..I love seeing more of Samuel emerge….. I love seeing him managing his sensory input and doing things his way.

He is an amazing young man. He keeps surprising me….BTW, my baby has hair coming out of his chin now……and one of my sisters said his voice is changing…..I AM NOT READY🙄