I am super sentsitive about Samuel and how or who can discipline him. When people don’t know your journey, they can never appreciate your current state. Most people including my family (husband included) do not understand how we got to where we are and why i do let some things slide with Samuel.
For years, i tried to get Samue to use public washroom or any washroom outside of our powder room washroom and it was a battle. A battle that caused alot of embarrasssement and side eye from many people. At some point, we never left the house without 3 change of clothes because Samuel will rather pee on himself than to use any other washroom. Now that Samuel is 13th, we still have this same issue but on a lighter scale. Samuel still showers in my washroom and uses our powder room for #2. Samuel does not use washroom at the school and this is a bigger issue that may lead to health problem but we are slowly but surely working towards it.
I once asked Samuel why he uses my washroom instead of his and his response was that “It smells”. Not that it smells because it’s dirty but i later realized that the smell of the paint (which never stood out to me until he called it out) was either too strong for him or he just doesn’t like it. Samuel has had issues from smell of washroom to the color of the washroom. Over the years, we have learnt to work together to make things work.
Our past struggle is why i get super irritated and sensitive about Samuel’s washroom routine. Samuel does NOT stand to pee and for some reason, this is an issue that requires some level of time out to some people. This to me is a NONE ISSUE – He is accomplishing the objective which is to pee in the toilet. When people don’t know your struggle or don’t want to understand where is coming from, they start unsolictated advice or feedback. I am super okay with Samuel sitting to pee…it is a NONE ISSUE. Do not try to purnish or talk negatively about my son and his pee abite. We are currently in a hotel and Samuel is using the washroom at the hotel —- NoW THIS IS WHAT I CALL A SUCCESS STORY.
I can’t wait for Samuel to be able to tell me why he prefers sitting than standing up to pee. For now all i get is “I don’t know” but i am sure in few years, he will be able to give me a better explanation but till then, Stay off my son’s tail as this is a NONE issue