I received messages from someone recently about a movie or show on Neflix with the main actor living life with Autism and ….you guess it….his name is Samuel/Sam. The actor apparently has an amazing job and is doing well. I haven’t seen it…I don’t really watch alot of TV neither do I enjoy movies. Their thought process was to show Samuel that he too can have a professional career and make it financially.
When you have the urge to send parent information about what another person on the spectrum is doing so well….I need you to STOP. Whatever it is that you want to share with us, we have thought about it, we have accessed it, we have come to the realization that it’ll not happen….this is extremely important when you’re not close to the child or the person
With this said, was I upset? No, because I understand that it’s coming out of love and that this person has never met Samuel therefore, they don’t know him. They haven’t had the opportunity to see the ability in Samuel, they judge his person based on their knowledge of what Autism is…..folks forget the SPECTRUM in ASD.
As a parent, I believe we all receive blank canvas and we add baseline items to it for all our children. For all my children, the basic kindness and respect of people…the general basic that any good parent have. Then for each, I (and many parent) Tailor it to meet our children’s ability/personalities. Samuel’s canvas is full with many opportunities and many spaces for him to add more opportunities and abilities of his own.
I don’t have limitations for Samuel when it comes to what the future holds. I do believe that because of some symptoms of Autism, Samuel will do amazingly well in any career path he chooses. Do I know the career path Samuel may not excel in? Yes!! Samuel hate blood, and will take your eyeballs out at the site of needle so will he be a dr or nurse, I strongly doubt it but he continues to change my perspective.
Samuel is confident about his future because we have never set the bar for him. We have given him opportunity to push himself slightly outside of his comfort zone and we continue to walk with him every step of the way. The only thing is that we expect him to do his very best. This very best may not even meet the minimum standard in some people but that doesn’t move us. There are times when others standard may be lower than what we expect for Samuel.
If you’re ever concern about what the future holds for Samuel…Thank you. I know it’s from a place of love. I ask at that moment that you take a minutes and speaks words of encouragement or positivity into his future…..the univers/God will carry it to him.
There is one thing that is for sure….Samuel will do amazingly well….his future is guaranteed❤… he is well aware that he is my retirement plan and he has to fund my travel goals in my old age🤣🤣
SHALOM💟